The question of identity is a profound one: Who am I? Is my identity defined by my name, my thoughts, my ego, my body, or the various roles that I play in life? If we consider any or all of these aspects as the essence of our identity, then the concept of “I” becomes fragmented. However, this fragmentation does not resonate with our inner experience. Deep within, there exists a constant sense of self—an unchanging “I” that persists regardless of external changes in body, mind, ego, or roles.
The Unchanging Sense of “I”
Throughout life, this sense of “I” remains the same. Whether as a baby, child, teenager, adult, son, daughter, brother, sister, husband, wife, father, mother, employee, employer, citizen, or ruler, the core sense of self is unchanged. It is this same “I” that has taken on different roles over time. Yet, we become so absorbed in these roles that we begin to believe we are defined by them. Our existence seems tied to these identities, and without them, the “I” appears lost. The pleasures and pains experienced in these roles are felt as our own, making it seem as though nothing exists within us but these varying identities.
Vedantic Perspective: Beyond Roles
Vedanta offers a radical idea: you are not your roles. Instead, you are the one who chooses to take up these roles. This “You” is your true self—the unchanging Truth. This true self transcends change, is never born, and never dies. It simply is. A glimpse of this true self is experienced in deep sleep. Through contemplation and analysis, it becomes evident that this truth is accessible; recognition of it is possible with earnest reflection.
Experiencing True Happiness
Once you access this inner space, the meaning of true happiness is both understood and experienced. This space has a magnetic pull, drawing you back time and again, even if the experience is not continuous. The limited “I” often interrupts, and when the thought of experiencing immense joy arises, the experience dissolves as the limited self becomes prominent. The true self, or Truth, is the foundation upon which the limited “I” operates, yet the force of Maya veils this Truth. Nevertheless, the memory of pure happiness lingers, and the yearning for it remains.
Returning to the True Home
The space called the true self, or Truth, is your real home. Imagine the bliss of returning to this space each time you finish playing a role. This is a place of pure happiness and bliss, where nothing exists except existence itself. Once you enter this space, the reality of the experience is undeniable.
Challenges in Letting Go of Roles
Despite this, we are deeply identified with our roles and reluctant to relinquish them, even in solitude. The mind creates imaginary “others” and maintains roles for engaging with them, even when no one else is physically present. This ongoing mental activity perpetuates identification with roles.
The Practice: Coming Home
The essential practice is to come home to the true self, beginning with moments of solitude. By returning to this inner space, we gradually realise and experience the peace and happiness that arise from our true nature.
